November 1, 2026It Was Never the Content
The hook is not any particular image. It is the endless supply of the next one.
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Nothing to Give Up
Most men approach quitting porn like a loss to be grieved. Look at the ledger again. You are not losing anything.
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November 1, 2026
October 29, 2026I'm Cutting Back on Bleach
A man explains his sensible, balanced plan to drink less bleach. Somehow, nobody is reassured.
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October 25, 2026The Relief That Makes Its Own Need
Porn does relieve something. The question nobody asks is where that something came from.
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October 22, 2026The Itch and the Lie
Two things pull you back to porn. One is small and fades in weeks. The other is a belief, and it is the one that actually runs the show.
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October 18, 2026You Are Not Weak. The Trap Is Good.
Smart, disciplined, faithful men get caught by porn every day. That is not a verdict on them. It is a description of how well the trap was built.
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October 15, 2026Why Willpower Keeps Failing You
Willpower assumes you are holding yourself back from something good. As long as you believe that, the fight never ends.
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September 26, 2026Artificial Intimacy: The Counterfeit That Talks Back
Porn gives the signals of being wanted with nobody there. AI gives the signals of being known with nobody there. An overview of the five-part Artificial Intimacy series.
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September 25, 2026Journaling Is Not Confession
Journaling is safe because the page does not answer. When AI replies, you get the relief of confession without anyone having heard you.
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September 24, 2026Fed and Starving
A machine that answers warmly and asks nothing can quiet the ache of loneliness without touching the deficit underneath. That is the danger of artificial intimacy.
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September 23, 2026When the Machine Talks Back
AI is transforming how we work. It is also the first screen that answers back, and the research on what its agreeableness does to us should give every man pause.
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September 22, 2026You Don't Have a Porn Problem, You Have a Nobody Problem
Male friendship collapsed over the same decades porn became frictionless. An appetite that is never fed by people will get fed by something.
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September 21, 2026Nothing Was Ever Asked of You
Porn's deepest damage is not what it shows you. It is that it never asks anything of you, and it trains a man to receive without ever giving back.
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September 19, 2026The Cost of Lust: A Sales Call
Lust never advertises what it actually costs. This one does — a fictional sales pitch that says the quiet part out loud.
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September 13, 2026Don't Waste the Relapse
The morning after a fall, I used to promise God it would never happen again and then put the whole thing out of my mind. Both felt like repentance. Neither one was. What it looks like to study a relapse instead of burying it — with a free one-page review sheet.
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September 4, 2026Artificial Does Not Mean Harmless
A federal appeals court just ruled that possessing AI-generated child sexual abuse material at home is constitutionally protected. Why "no real victim" was never the right question — legally or personally.
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August 3, 2026Don't Make Purity the Goal
For a long time I thought walking in purity was the finish line. Get there, and everything else follows. My marriage heals. My wife respects me again. The guilt lifts. I stop hating myself at the end of the day. I stop…
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June 7, 2026I Wasn’t Looking for Porn. I Was Looking for Proof.
There’s something nobody talks about when it comes to sexual sin and recovery — the emotion underneath it isn’t always lust. For me, a lot of the time, it was insignificance. I didn’t always know that. I thought I just…
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April 11, 2026Two Dreams and What They Taught Me About Boundaries, Attention, and Recovery
Last night I had two dreams that stayed with me. At first they felt random, but as I sat with them, I started to see a pattern that speaks directly to recovery from sexual addiction and learning how to live with clear…
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March 6, 2026We’re Not Walking to a Destination. We’re Learning a New Way to Walk.
Most people begin the fight for purity thinking about a finish line. They imagine that if they can go long enough without falling—30 days, 90 days, maybe a year—then they will finally arrive somewhere. A place where…
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February 18, 2026We Are Not Walking to a Destination — We Are Learning to Walk Again
A Walk In Purity reflection on recovery as relearning daily patterns of honesty, connection, and healthy living rather than simply arriving at a final destination.
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January 28, 2026Visual Whispers: Managing Intrusive Images in Christian Recovery
Have you ever tried not to think of a pink elephant? The very command makes that image spring to mind. In the same way, our brains often “hear” whispers – not just as words but as vivid pictures. In recovery, you may…
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January 11, 2026First Steps When You’ve Fallen and Want to Come Back
Brother, if you’re reading this, it means your heart is still alive. Men who are done with God don’t feel this weight. Conviction hurts, but it points toward life. Shame tells you to hide. God calls you to come…
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October 29, 2025What “attractive” really means — and why we get to choose how we respond
Men use a lot of words for the same thing: attractive, beautiful, pretty, cute, hot. Each word carries a different feel. “Pretty” can mean gentle. “Hot” can mean raw desire. And “attractive” often points to a quality…
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July 27, 2025From Tattered Confidence to the Armor of Christ
A Vision in Counseling About a year ago, I was in a counseling session, working through some personal struggles. During our talk, the counselor said he had a vision of me wearing a tattered military-style uniform…
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July 27, 2025One Year Sober: Why Porn Addiction Recovery Is Hard—and Why It’s Worth It
Today marks one full year sober from pornography. And let me be real: It’s very difficult, and it’s very easy at the same time. It’s difficult because in recovery, you are asked to say “no” in places where you have…
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July 27, 2025Surf the Urge: How Waiting It Out Can Help You Stay Pure
Life is full of urges—wanting a snack, buying a car, or the pull to click on porn. They all work the same way: they rise, crest, and eventually fade away. That’s good news. If we learn to wait them out, we gain…
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July 27, 2025Greatness Bleeds Happiness
The idea of “greatness bleeds happiness” suggests that the pursuit of excellence often requires effort, sacrifice, and sometimes unseen costs. Yet, embedded within that journey is a deep and enduring joy. To understand…
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July 27, 2025The Role of Porn-Blocking Software in Addiction Recovery
When it comes to addiction recovery, especially from pornography, one of the greatest challenges is the accessibility of temptation. In today’s digital age, harmful content is often just a click away, and overcoming…
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October 29, 2024Cultivating Gratitude: A Path to Greater Joy
Gratitude is more than just a feeling; it’s a biblical practice that can transform our lives and relationships. Throughout scripture, we see God calling us to be thankful for His blessings and to recognize His…
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June 24, 2024Link Between Addiction and Trauma
Sex addiction is often deeply connected to unresolved trauma. Recognizing this link can help explain why some individuals turn to compulsive sexual behaviors as a coping mechanism. Trauma’s Impact on the Brain Trauma,…
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June 17, 2024Exploring the Hidden Wealth of Resources on Porn Addiction
Porn addiction is a silent crisis that profoundly impacts millions of individuals and society. Many people are unaware of the severe mental health, relationship, and societal consequences associated with this…
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